The decision to move a loved one into a nursing home is a difficult and personal one. Everyone has their limits as far as the level of care they are able to provide at home. The most important thing to keep in mind as you’re looking to decide when to move your grandmother is the three stages of Alzheimer’s disease. Knowing what is likely to come next can help you decide when you’ve reached your limit as a caregiver.
In the beginning stage of Alzheimer’s, the person can typically still work and drive, and is only just starting to forget things. In the middle-stage, as a caregiver you can expect the person to forget how to complete routine tasks, to jumble their words and to experience behavior changes, such as refusing to take a bath. In late-stage Alzheimer’s, the person will have difficulty eating and walking, and will eventually need full-time help with their personal care.
As your grandmother’s caregiver, you have to decide how much you’re willing and able to help her – and what situation would be best for both her and you.
Caregiver burnout is very real and you have to look out for both of you.